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Posted on 28 June 202628 June 2026 by man_paris — Leave a comment

Dildo Buyer’s Guide” Choosing the Right Size, Shape and Material

The Flared Base Rule

A dildo buyers guide for gay men starts here because this is the non-negotiable: if a dildo is going anywhere near your arse, it needs a flared base. A flared base is a base wider than the widest point of the toy. Without it, there is no reliable way to retrieve the toy if it travels further than intended. The rectum can hold objects, and it will. This is a medical emergency when it happens.

Every dildo sold on the Manatomy site that is described for anal use has a flared base. If you are buying a dildo elsewhere, check this before purchase.

Size: Starting Smaller Makes Sense

The temptation to size up is real and understandable. The practical advice is to resist it for your first dildo. Anal capacity develops over time with consistent use. A toy that is too large for your current capacity produces pain and negative associations, not pleasure. A toy that feels genuinely manageable produces enjoyment and provides the physical progression toward larger sizes over time.

For a first dildo, something in the 3-4cm diameter range at the widest point and 12-15cm in usable length is a sensible starting point. The Smooth Satisfier at $18.50 and Petite Pecker at $18.50 are both in this range.

Shape and Curve

Straight Dildos

Straight dildos are the most versatile and the easiest to use in multiple positions. The Smooth Satisfier and Dragon Scale are both straight designs. For someone new to dildos, a straight toy is easier to control and predict than a curved one.

Curved for Prostate Stimulation

A slight upward curve directs pressure toward the anterior wall of the rectum, where the prostate sits approximately 5-7cm inside the body. The Love Wand Glass Dildo has a curve designed specifically for this. The effect of direct prostate pressure is different from general anal stimulation, more focused and internal, and for some men significantly more intense.

Material Options

Silicone Dildos

The Smooth Satisfier, Petite Pecker, Pleasing Pink, Dragon Scale, and Wrist Fist are all silicone. These are body-safe, sterilisable, and durable. Use water-based lube with silicone toys.

Glass Dildos

The Furrowed Glass Dildo at $22.50, Love Wand at $34.50, and Groovy Wand are borosilicate glass. Firm, smooth, fully sterilisable, and excellent for temperature play. Glass dildos are often underrated because of an assumption that they are fragile, but borosilicate glass is tougher than it looks. Handle with normal care and avoid dropping.

Suction Cups and Harness Compatibility

The Unicorn Suction Dildo at $22.50 has a suction cup base, which allows hands-free use against a flat surface. This changes solo use completely, freeing both hands and allowing positions that are not possible when holding the toy. Worth considering if hands-free play is relevant to how you want to use it.

Some dildos are also harness-compatible, meaning the base fits into a standard O-ring harness. The Thrusting Dildo 7 Inch at $85 is an example. This is relevant if you are using a strap-on setup.

Your First Dildo vs Upgrading

A first dildo: silicone, smaller end of the range, flared base. Simple and body-safe.

Second dildo: move up in either size or function. A curved silicone toy for prostate focus, or a glass toy for temperature play.

More experienced: larger sizes, dual density materials (like the Dual Density Dildo 7 Inch at $36.50), or a thrusting dildo.

Pair this guide with the safe anal sex guide for preparation and lube advice.

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Posted on 28 June 202630 June 2026 by man_paris — Leave a comment

The Best Gay Sex Toys Under $50 in Australia

Cock Rings Under $50

Gay sex toys under 50 Australia are more varied and solid than most people expect. The Tyre Cock Ring 2pk at $7.50 is the most accessible entry point in the shop. Two rings in a pack, flexible silicone, and they do what a cock ring is supposed to do: create firm constriction at the base that sustains the erection and sharpens the orgasm. At $7.50, the risk of trying a cock ring for the first time is essentially nothing.

The Vibes Vibrating Cock Ring at $32.50 is the under-$50 option if you want vibration added. It sits at the base of the shaft and adds stimulation during penetration or solo use. The Super Soft Cock Ring at $16.50 is the right choice if you want maximum flexibility and comfort for extended wear.

Anal Toys Under $50

The Gem Joy Silicone Butt Plug at $12.50 is the standard recommendation for anyone trying anal play for the first time. Small, body-safe silicone, and the price means you are not over-investing before you know whether anal toys are for you. The Slender Sensual Butt Plug at $13.50 is slightly longer with a narrower profile.

Scorpion Vibrating Cock Ring & Butt Plug The Double Bead Pup Tail Butt Plug and the Wiggle Pup Plug at $22.50 are both within the $50 range for men interested in pup play gear alongside anal stimulation. The Scorpion Vibrating Cock Ring and Butt Plug combo at $49.50 sits right at the top of the budget and gives you both cock ring and anal stimulation in one toy, which is a genuine step up for solo sessions.

Masturbators and Strokers Under $50

The Mini Milk-er Masturbator at $16.50 is a compact, affordable sleeve with a simple internal texture. The Bator Glove at $24.50 is a different design, a palm-worn stroker rather than a sleeve, which suits slow deliberate solo sessions well. The Supple Stroker at $28.50 is the closest thing to a quality mid-range stroker in this price bracket, with a softer internal feel than most budget options.

Kink Starter Gear Under $50

The Tri-morphic Ball Stretcher at $18.50 is the natural starting point if you are curious about ball stretching. Soft silicone, low weight, a real read on whether the sensation is for you before spending more.

The Electro Stimulus Pen at $32.50 is a worthwhile entry into electro play for under $50. It introduces the e-stim sensation in a pen-sized handheld format. For a full explanation of what electro play actually feels like, see the Manatomy electro play guide.

The Rubber Tipped Bondage Pegs 4pk at $12.50 are the most affordable kink item in the shop and cover both nipple play and light bondage application.

What to Buy First

If you have not bought a sex toy before, start with one clear purpose. Most of the gay sex toys under 50 Australia shoppers reach for first are cock rings and butt plugs. A cock ring if erection quality is what you are interested in. A butt plug if anal play is where your curiosity sits. A stroker if you want to upgrade solo sessions. Buying one thing and understanding it properly is more useful than buying five things at once.

The Gem Joy and Tyre Ring 2pk together come in under $25 and cover both categories. That is a reasonable first purchase if you are genuinely unsure where to start.

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Posted on 28 June 202629 June 2026 by man_paris — Leave a comment

How to Use Your First Butt Plug: A Relaxed Guide for Men

Choosing Your First Size

If you are thinking about how to use a butt plug for the first time, size is the first decision that matters. Go smaller than your instinct says. A plug that feels genuinely small in your hand is the right starting point. Something in the 2-3cm diameter range at the widest point is manageable for most people. The Gem Joy Silicone Butt Plug and the Slender Sensual are both designed with this in mind, and they are a good reason why these two move consistently through the shop.

You will read articles that suggest starting with a finger first, and that is sound advice. If a finger is comfortable, a slim plug will be comfortable. If a finger is not yet comfortable, the plug can wait.

Lube: More Than You Think You Need

Lube is not optional with anal play. The anus does not self-lubricate the way a vagina does, and without sufficient lube, insertion is uncomfortable at best and causes small tears at worst. Use more than you think is necessary, then add more.

For silicone plugs, water-based lube is the correct choice. Silicone-based lube degrades silicone toys over time, which is worth knowing before you reach for whatever is in the drawer. Apply lube to both the plug and the external area before starting. If things feel like they are dragging or catching at any point, add more lube immediately.

The Gem Joy and Slender Sensual are both silicone, so water-based lube is the go with both.

How to Actually Relax

This is the part most guides underexplain. Relaxation during anal play is a physical skill, not just a mental state. The external anal sphincter responds to breath. A slow exhale as you apply gentle inward pressure is more effective than trying to force relaxation by thinking about it.

Lying on your back with knees drawn up, or on your side in a foetal position, are the two positions most people find comfortable for solo plug use. Sitting over the plug is harder for beginners because the body instinctively tenses.

If you feel resistance, stop. Breathe out slowly. Wait. Try again with more lube. Pain is a signal to stop, not to push through.

Insertion: Step by Step

Get yourself relaxed and aroused first. Arousal naturally relaxes the pelvic floor, which makes a meaningful difference. Apply lube generously. Position the tip of the plug at the opening and apply consistent, gentle inward pressure while you breathe out slowly. The plug should slide in gradually, not pop in suddenly.

The narrowing neck of a butt plug is what keeps it in place once the widest point has passed. You will feel the sphincter close around the neck, and at that point the plug is seated correctly. It should feel like a full, slightly pressured sensation. Not painful.

If the plug has a gem or decorative base, make sure the base is sitting flat against the body and is not being pressed inward. The flared base is a safety feature. It is what prevents a plug from travelling further than intended.

How Long Can You Keep It In?

For a first session, 15-30 minutes is a reasonable starting point. There is no benefit to pushing through discomfort in the early sessions. The body adapts over multiple sessions, and what feels like a lot at 20 minutes becomes comfortable at 45 minutes after a few weeks of regular use.

Remove the plug if you feel any sharp pain, significant cramping, or numbness. These are signals to stop.

Removing the Plug

Removal is as deliberate as insertion. Relax, breathe out, and apply gentle outward pressure. The plug should come out smoothly. If it feels like it is resisting, add more lube and wait a moment. Tugging forcefully is never the right approach.

Cleaning and Storage

Rinse the plug under warm water immediately after use, before anything has a chance to dry. Silicone plugs can be boiled for full sterilisation, or run through the dishwasher on the top shelf without detergent. Store separately from other toys to prevent materials from reacting with each other. A small cotton pouch or zip-lock bag works fine.

For full cleaning guidance across all toy materials, see the Manatomy sex toy cleaning guide.

What to Try Next

Once a smaller plug is comfortable for extended sessions, moving up one size is straightforward. The Plunge Plug and Rainbow Butt Plug are natural second toys. The Knub Stainless Steel Butt Plug is worth considering if you are interested in temperature play and the firmer, weightier sensation that metal provides.

From butt plugs, the natural next steps are dildos for prostate stimulation or vibrating plug toys. The Scorpion Vibrating Cock Ring and Butt Plug combo covers both shaft stimulation and anal play in one toy, which is a practical next step for solo sessions.

MANATOMY TEAM NOTE: We have been writing about and selling anal toys in Australia since we started the shop. The questions we get asked most are about lube quantity (always more than you think), relaxation (it is a skill that develops), and whether a small plug is embarrassingly small (it is not). Start small, use a lot of lube, and do not rush the process.

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Posted on 9 October 202529 June 2026 by man_paris — Leave a comment

How to Choose Your First Sex Toy: A Step-by-Step Beginner’s Guide

Start With Curiosity, Not the Product

Choosing your first sex toy is easier when you start with what you are actually curious about rather than what looks impressive. The categories sort themselves out from there: anal play points you to plugs and dildos, erection and sensation point you to cock rings, and solo stimulation points you to strokers. Pick the curiosity first, then the toy.

Step 1: Pick One Sensation to Explore

Decide on one thing for your first toy. If anal play is the draw, a small silicone butt plug is the standard starting point, and our guide on how to use a butt plug walks through it. If you want firmer, longer-lasting erections, a soft silicone cock ring is the simplest entry, covered in how to use a cock ring. If solo sessions are the focus, a stroker is the obvious first buy.

Step 2: Check the Material

Stick to body-safe materials for a first toy. Silicone is non-porous, easy to clean, and the safest default. Avoid vague jelly or soft rubber with no material listed. For anything going inside the body, a non-porous material you can clean properly matters more than price.

Step 3: Start Small and Affordable

Buy one thing in the lower price range and learn it before spending more. A toy that feels manageable gets used. A toy bought to impress yourself usually sits in a drawer. You can always upgrade once you know what you like.

Step 4: Get the Basics to Go With It

Add water-based lube, which works with every toy material, and plan how you will clean and store the toy. Those two things make the difference between a toy you keep using and one you do not.

Where to Go Deeper

Once you know which direction your curiosity points, the gay man’s guide to sex toys covers each category in more detail and what to try as you progress. Choosing your first sex toy is just the start of working out what you enjoy.

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